Q: How do I best care for my alcoholic sister? A: You surrender her / it to God and let go of wanting to control it. Trying to intervene keeps someone in pain and robs them of karmic merit. […] If you intervene, you’re robbing her of karmic merit and of what she needs to know. She’s going to need to hit bottom, whether she knows it or not. Intervening actually increases her suffering, because every time you try to help, you change where she has to go to hit bottom; now she has to go even lower. Do you love her enough to surrender her to God? If she says, “I hate you, you’re deserting me, I’m going to kill myself,” you say, “Well, that’s between you and God.” You need the conviction, the first step in Al Anon. Otherwise, you’re serving your own ego if you say, I’ve got to go in there and intervene. — [[Dr. David Hawkins]]